With September 11th, Most are from Mars. Victims are from Venus.
Sep 13, 2010 Dating True Stories
I know this is a “different” topic for an online dating blog. And that’s okay.
On September 11th, I stayed true to my goal and my word. I knew I had a hot date with my memories of being in New York. But I tried to get through the day being grateful and focused on where I was in the present.
I cherished the blessing of having custody of my 4-year old son on a not too hot sunny Saturday in Arizona’s Valley of the Sun. It was a formula that brought about many more smiles than tears. And thanks to my trusty digital camera and photogenic little boy, it helped me to create some wonderful new memories.
What I noticed again was that when it comes to the experience of September 11th, most people are from Mars. I’m talking both men and women. I’m also talking about Americans.
The folks from Mars it seems are the ones who remember and talk about 9-11 as though it somehow revolved around them. They speak of it in terms of where they were that day. They remember how they learned about the event. They remember they were watching it on TV. They remember how it altered their routines.
The people who appear to be from Venus are those of who who were directly connected or impacted by the powerful tragedies that took place 9 long and short years ago. We too remember where we were, and what we saw and heard. The difference is we too remember what we felt and still feel. And we remember how others felt and still feel, too.
In Arizona, it’s only natural that most people have a Mars-like experience. They were 2500 miles away from the World Trade Center. (It’s interesting, I originally wrote they “are” 2500 miles away as if those beautiful towers are still here). Anyway, the first tower was hit before six in the morning on Arizona alarm clocks.
But it’s okay to be different. And I spent the day of September 11th, 2010 recognizing it.
We had a scheduled morning play date at a nearby playground for my little boy and one of his best buddies from preschool. My son is caucasian. His friend is Chinese. I am divorced. His friend’s parents are happily married. Some parents at the playground participated in the fun with their children. Others paid more attention to their smart phones, seemingly hoping their kids didn’t get hurt too badly or run off with a stranger.
Of the hundred plus people there, two of us wore something that let others know we remembered. And that’s okay.
After the playground, my son and I then went shopping for a present for a new friend of mine. It created a whole new experience of differences. The guy we were shopping for is a real nice guy. I like him. He’s funny as hell and kind as heaven. He happens to have September 11th as a birthday. He happens to enjoy making jewelry. He also happens to be gay. We couldn’t be more different as men.
So, upon the wonderful recommendation of our mutual friend Karen, I carried my little boy into Michael’s, the arts and crafts store near our home in Chandler, Arizona. A female employee could tell right away I was lost and clueless. She led me to the beads section and was initially eager to help. But with question she asked about who I was shopping for, I actually noticed her step back physically and pull back emotionally. It was written all over her face. I couldn’t help but assume she was assuming I was gay and was shopping for my new “friend.” Now that was different.
We took our presents to the birthday party at a place in Phoenix that lets people create their own painted plates and pottery. Everyone in the place was so serious about what they were doing. Again, I couldn’t have been more different.
My son was like me. He soon was pulling me out the door because he wanted to go outside and play. We went to an awesome open area in the outdoor mall that has fountains coming up through the floor for kids to get wet. All of the other parents sat far away enough at tables to avoid getting wet. I was the one who wound up getting soaked from head to toe, including the discomfort of wet socks and sneakers. Again, I couldn’t have felt more different.
The day ended by helping a woman revamp her online dating profile for eHarmony. I took some photos of her and uploaded them. I also proofed what she had written and gave her some advice from a man’s perspective.
Needless to say, even more so than shopping for jewelry making supplies, this experience of seeing how women and men approach online dating was the crown jewel of recognizing differences on my September 11th. And that’s okay.
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9-11 Newsman Turned Blogger Gives Free Online Dating Profile Reviews for September 11th Victims
Sep 8, 2010 NewsRoom
www.blogonlinedating.com offers online dating news, reviews, interviews, tips, and fun for singles. The new online dating blog is run by a single Daddy, who is an expert at internet content development through writing and video.
Chandler, AZ, September 8, 2010 – 9 years later, he still remembers. As a producer for ABC News, Thomas Baldrick covered the 9-11 tragedies for about six weeks straight. Most of it was in the New York City area. The rest of the time he spent in Shanksville, PA where Flight 93 crashed. Now, he’s using his online dating blog to show a little kindness to other singles like him who might be hurting on that unforgettable day.
The newsman turned Internet Content Development Specialist will put to use his creative and writing skills to help others on the upcoming 9th anniversary of 9-11. Eight years ago, he unveiled his “9-11 Wall of Hope” at the Shanksville Elementary School with Pennsylvania Governor, Mark Schweiker. The heartwarming and heartbreaking project paid tribute to children affected by the tragedies through showcasing their feelings, artwork, poems, and prayers.
Now in 2010, through his new online dating blog news site, blogonlinedating.com, Baldrick is offering a free online dating profile review and consultation to the first 20 singles personally affected by September 11th. Interested singles need only send an email to: blogonlinedating@gmail.com.
“As September 11th rolled around last year, I thought I’d gotten all of the tears out my system. Ouch, was I wrong,” admitted Baldrick. “This year, I feel grateful to have custody of my little boy on 9-11. My original goal was just to give him a very happy day. But then I got this idea to do something more. Since my online dating blog already offers 10 free tips for creating the perfect online dating profile, I decided to personally help 9 female singles and 11 male singles to improve theirs. Why 9 women and 11 men? Because guys need more help than women!”
Baldrick says he is not going to require official confirmation from men or women who request his help through this offer. All he asks is that they were truly impacted by 9-11 by losing a loved one or by being a survivor of the tragedies. “I’m sure we’ll talk on the phone and share experiences,” he said. “And if there are any American singles who would lie about something like this on such a sacred day in our country, then they would need far more help than I can give them through this small act of kindness.”
The online dating industry has been experiencing a rapid rate of growth. Most research shows the industry now has annual revenues of more than $ 4 billion dollars. The latest U.S. Census Bureau figures report there are some 96 million American men and women over 18 years of age who are singles. That equals 43% of the entire U.S. population.
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BlogOnlineDating.com is a newly launched online dating blog website for women and men singles. It offers quality professional content such as online dating news, advice, expert interviews, true dating stories. It is designed to be helpful, entertaining, thought-provoking, and conversational. For more information, visit http://www.blogonlinedating.com.
Contact Information:
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