Online Dating has literally “Gone to the Dogs…”
May 28, 2011 Online Dating News, Uncategorized
People have been saying it and thinking it. Online dating has gone to the dogs. But those words are usually spoken by men or women who haven’t yet enjoyed any kind of success in online dating. However, things are different now.
Online dating has gone to the dogs, literally. Mate Select is a website launched by Kennel Club. Its primary purpose is to be the online connection place for pedigree dog breeders. It aims to do this by promoting the general improvement of dogs. A big part of this will be working to ensure that pedigree puppies remain healthy by steering clear of nature’s inevitable genetic problems which occur with “inbreeding,” when breeders mate dogs who are too closely related.
Mate Select gives dog breeders the opportunity to perform hypothetical matchmaking, mating dogs online to explore what type of a genetic impact there would be were it to happen in real life. This is important for safeguarding the long term health and viability of the dogs involved and the future of the breed.
There are also benefits for people who buy puppies. Now they will be able to validate the health and test results of the parents of puppies they might be considering buying. Kennel club hopes this aspect will take a big bite out of the black market or illegitimate dog dealers since every dog on Mate Select is registered with Kennel Club, meaning every deal has total transparency.
Well-deserved credit goes to Kennel Club for having the vision and determination to come up with the clever promotional idea. It can not only help dog breeders, dogs, and dog lovers, but will also likely boost the overall image and awareness of Kennel Club. You reading this online dating blog is proof they’re getting free publicity.
Why shouldn’t there be an online dating site for dogs? There is already Plenty of Fish for humans, right? There are also many popular niche opportunities in online dating such as Thai Dating sites or sites for admitted ugly people. Perhaps there are some key takeaways online dating sites for men and women should get by looking closely at online puppy love.
Since I was just reading online dating complaints of eHarmony users about how the industry giant seemingly fails to use physical compatibility or physical attraction in generating matches, perhaps they can do some scratching and chewing around the basic concepts of Mate Select.
We’ll all know when we’ve gone too far in letting online dating go to the dogs. It’ll be the time when men and women can log on to an online dating profile and sniff the hind quarters of their potential love matches.
Tags: dog breeding, eharmony, online dating news, online dating profiles, online dating sites, plenty of fish
Enjoy Thai Dating Videos about Thai Girls
May 13, 2011 Online Dating News
Wanna watch online videos about beautiful Thai Girls? Well now there is a new place where you can do just that.
In a welcomed piece of online dating news, ThaiAngelsChannel on You Tube is the new channel for ThaiAngels.com. Thai Angels is the new Thai Dating website for singles which provides an online community where men from around the world can find and meet a nice Thai Lady or even an exotic Thai LadyBoy.
Thai Angels is different than other Thai Dating sites. The management team which has launched the website and online dating service is led by a Thailand woman and her husband who is an American businessman. They have the advantage of knowing and understanding Thailand, the Thai Dating culture, and Thai Dating etiquette.
All men and women 18 years of age or older can join the Thai Angels Online Dating community for free. Once people creates online dating profiles they can communicate with other members through the usual online dating methods. Plus, there are other unique benefits from Thai Angels including live video chat and online games. Simply log on now to ThaiAngels.com.
Tags: online dating news, online dating profiles, online dating service, online games, thai angels, thai dating
Online Dating: Sleeping with the Enemy
Nov 23, 2010 Online Dating News
Some men and women claim to like dating bad guys and bad girls. But what about attracting the really bad ones through internet dating? I’m talking about the hardened criminals.
Criminals do their jail time in order to pay their debt to society. Everyone deserves a shot at love. But do you deserve the right to know if someone you are communicating with through online dating sites is actually a convicted felon?
Most Online Dating Sites Do Not Check Members for Possible Criminal History
But what most of the companies behind internet dating sites say is they do take the security of their members very seriously. Still, for reasons such as cost, hassle, incomplete information as well as inaccuracies, they choose not to conduct background checks of members in the felony and sex offender databases. On the other hand, they don’t want to create a false sense of security to members if they don’t have access to the latest and greatest criminal records.
Some argue that because of the money online dating sites generate, they should pay for criminal background checks as a part of the services they provide to members. A slightly different argument is that online dating sites could upsell members and charge extra for the option of background checks.
But really, how many men and women would want to enter an online dating relationship with a known felon? The answer is probably not too many. Once criminals complete their prison sentence, they are entitled to their rights and freedom again, with the exception of registered sex offenders. Therefore, internet dating companies could open themselves up to potential lawsuits by providing criminal history of members.
Use Caution in Offline or Online Dating
Hopefully, you don’t need an online dating news blog to teach you to be smart about protecting yourself and your privacy. It is safe to say that wherever singles today connect, whether it is at a local coffee shop, nightclub, or an online dating site, people should always exercise caution when getting to know strangers.
Sure, your neighbors could be dangerous and you might not know until it’s too late. However, it’s also quite possible the men and women who act like your neighbors online might not be who they present themselves to be.
If a person wants to hide, it’s easier to do behind a computer screen than in real life. You can create false online dating profiles even with photos fairly easily if you wanted to hide your past.
True.com actually does background checks of every one of its members that signs up for the online dating site. It rejects less than three percent of the people for being convicted felons, which is a statistic in line with the national average.
In the United States, only the state of New Jersey has adopted an internet dating safety law. It requires that online dating sites provide users with safety notices and inform them if they don’t conduct background checks on members.
Tags: background checks, internet dating, online dating news, online dating profiles, singles
Online Dating: Putting Rural Singles in Reach
Nov 23, 2010 Dating Websites, Online Dating News
Singles finding other compatible singles for dating can be challenging. There are all kinds of reasons for it, including schedule, resources, preferences, income, and so on.
These types of common challenges are often the case in major metropolitan areas such as crowded New York City, the widespread windy city of Chicago, and even Philadelphia, PA, the City of Brotherly Love and Sisterly Affection. But what can you do if you also have geography as a major obstacle for you in finding the love you want?
For those who reside in a rural area or small town, their dating options have always been rather limited. But online dating has changed all of that. Online dating sites put plenty of potential matches at their fingertips regardless of what remote corner of the world they are in looking for love.
For example, if you were a single man or woman who made your home in Window Rock, Arizona, you’d out there in desert country with more rocks than potential dating partners, and a limited window of opportunity. The similar situation exists from Alaska to Montana, Maine to New Mexico, and many countries around the world. Isn’t it cool that the internet allows for an online dating blog to write about this? Isn’t it cool that the technology behind online dating brings a world full of possibilities to all of the people in rural locations?
Sure, there are more hurdles for all of those singles who live in remote areas, such as managing the long travel distance with a relationship partner or one of the people having to relocate, but still, at least singles everywhere have options regardless of where they call home. And with every passing day, more and more single women and men are jumping online and dropping their online dating profiles into the world of online dating because they see it as their only genuine option for meeting someone. Good for them.
Tags: online dating, online dating blog, online dating news, online dating profiles, singles
Online Dating Profiles: Everyone is a Public Figure
Nov 17, 2010 Online Dating Tips
The internet never closes. It’s open for business and browsing 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Very often you don’t even know who your customers and potential customers are. Take this online dating blog, BlogOnlineDating as a case in point. It gets visitors from all over the world every day.
When it comes to online dating profiles, they basically act as your online storefront, shopping you, and the personal package that makes up who you are as a unique individual. So, you need to be honest if you are looking to connect with a potential relationship partner who truly is compatible with who you really are.
But here’s the truth about the danger of telling the truth in online dating…
Any and all personal information you want to keep private should never appear in your online dating profile. They could suddenly become online dating news. You don’t know if what you post is being read by someone across the street from your home, across the hall from your office, or across enemy lines – whatever ones you may know you have or don’t know you have.
Just because this information isn’t always available to everyone in the general public, doesn’t mean it’s private either. Naturally, using your last name, mailing address, email address, and phone number in online dating essentially means you are putting a potential bullseye on yourself. The online dating sites have permission to use your likeness, image, and information if you actually check the terms and conditions of service.
Here are 5 other quick examples for why you want to make sure you know the difference between public and private as it pertains to online dating:
1. Stupid and cheating married guys often get caught posting online dating profiles when someone they know recognizes them.
2. I know a guy who had a pending divorce. His ex-wife who was mad as a hornet’s nest over their breakup somehow got alerted to his online dating profile and used it to make their relationship even more miserable than it already was.
3. I know another strange guy who has more online profiles than he seems to have personalities. He communicates with people all the time in social media and online dating sites. Some of them he personally knows, others he would like to know. The problem is none of these people know it’s him. Can you see how easily trouble can find its way to your keyboard?
4. People with personal preferences or fetishes or issues get “out’d” all of the time. Every day, there are married people who are gay, socialites or powerful figures who are into colorful sexual activities, and those with a drug or alcohol problem who manage to have their secrets revealed in online dating exposure. And it’s always shocking to them when their world falls apart from looking for love.
5. Private online dating information can be bad for business. Competitors and customers can find out things about you that you wouldn’t necessarily want them to know.
Can you see how easily trouble can find its way to your keyboard? Can you see the power of protecting your privacy? In online dating, it’s always good to be honest. However, it’s also just as good to be smart about it.
Tags: online dating news, online dating privacy, online dating profiles, online dating tips
An Online Dating Site that might “Sound” Good to You
Nov 14, 2010 Dating Websites
Many of us have preferences in seeking a match or a mate, right? For example, some Jews, Muslims, and Mormons want to stay within their religion in seeking a match or a mate. Some wealthy people only want a mate who’s in their same income bracket. Some highly educated people want only to be matched with someone of their intellect.
Then, there’s the matter of looks. Many of us have a certain look we like, right? Some gentlemen prefer blondes, others like redheads. Some women prefer older men. Some cougars like the young cubs. Some whites want only to date African-Americans. Some BBWs only want equally big men.
But that covers looks. What about sounds?
Personally, I’ve always been a sucker for women with Southern accents and British accents. I don’t care what they say to me as long as they talk to me.
Do you have a certain sound that is music to your ears? If you are one of those people who believe “Beauty is in the ear of the Beholder,” then let me share some online dating news with you about a website I just heard about (pardon the pun).
Perhaps you should consider exploring www.iloveyouraccent.com. When you log on to the site you get welcomed by a video with a woman who has a lovely British accent.
The site talks of being open for singles to enjoy socializing with others. If you are an American looking for love, you can use iloveyouraccent.com as a resource to explore people in your community or across the pond in the United Kingdom, or other countries as well. It is positioning itself as more of an international online dating option.
The text on the website kind of reads like the writing of a depressed amateur therapist – a cross between say Dr. Phil and Dr. Ruth. Still, this dating service, iloveyouraccent.com does have some features that sound pretty good.
It says the site can act as your new foreign friend. You are urged to join the forums, talk about your life, love, and your hopes as well as dreams.
Registering and keeping a basic account with an online dating profile is free. You also get access to free unlimited chat, your very own blog, and uploads of video and accents. Naturally, there is an upsell to a premium account.
All and all, ILoveYourAccent.com shows there are plenty of niche markets and nice opportunities for you in the world of online dating. Find the one that works best for you and pursue it.
Tags: iloveyouraccent.com, online dating news, online dating profiles, singles
Online Dating Thief to Get Plenty of Dating Opportunities in Prison
Nov 13, 2010 Online Dating News
I don’t know if he is a baseball fan. Nor do I care. But I do hope Barrie Turner gets his turn as a catcher in prison. It will put him on the receiving end of what he did to the more than 1,000 people he ripped off with his bogus and predatory online dating sites.
The 66-year-old man from British Columbia was just sentenced to 51 months in prison in U.S. District Court in Seattle, Washington. He pled guilty in June 2010. Turner must also pay back more than $300,000 in restitution to the people who thought they were his customers. In sentencing him, U.S. District Judge Ricardo S. Martinez told Turner “You stole the victims’ money. You stole their hope and dignity for the most basic of reasons: money.”
Turner was arrested last March when he tried to enter the United States at Point Roberts, Washington, just south of the Canadian Border where he collected his funds from fraud. The U.S. Postal Inspection Service delivered when it found that Turner was accepting payments from customers, but wasn’t providing them with any legitimate matchmaking services.
He was operating more than 200 Executive Dating websites, including Executive Gay Dating, Executive Catholic Dating, and Executive Seattle Dating. The more than 1,000 men and women paid as much as $1,500 for Turner’s dating services and got nothing for their money.
Prosecutors reported that Turner’s dating service websites were nothing more than a scheme that was fake, fraudulent, and cruel. And he did it over and over in Canada, Great Britain, and the United States.
Customers were sent matches but they were always fake. They included elaborate phony online dating profiles created by Turner and his accomplices. When the customers did find any of their fake matches interesting enough to want to meet, they would then receive identical but disappointing emails informing them that the “match” had decided to date someone else whom they had already met.
One of the female victims wrote in her statement to the court that Turner’s service “raised my hopes and then they dashed them. I felt foolish, embarrassed, and depressed. They preyed on me (and others) when we are the most vulnerable, all for the sake of their own greed.”
U.S. District Court Judge Martinez stated that this case was different than the other more typical types of fraud. “If someone orders a computer on eBay and gets a box of rocks, they are unhappy and mad… but they don’t lose their hope, dignity and self-respect as these people did,” he said.
So, for the next four years or so, online dating is safe from Barrie Turner. Meanwhile, he will rightfully be in prison with love (or at least inmate dating opportunities) looking for him in all the wrong places.
Tags: online dating news, online dating profiles, online dating scheme
Is Facebook More Real than Online Dating Profiles?
Nov 8, 2010 Online Dating News
Let’s face it. Online dating has its challenges, right? The process would be a whole lot easier if there was a level playing field for all love and partnership seekers.
Wouldn’t it be great if every man and woman told the whole truth and nothing but the truth in their online dating profiles? Imagine knowing what a person’s real hopes and dreams were, being able to read an honest and accurate self-description and analysis, and seeing someone in photos as they are in real time, not online dating photos of avatars, family pets, sunsets, or various images altered in various ways through the wonders of photoshop.
Maybe “Friendship First” is the way to Truth and Success in Online Dating.
By “friendship” I really mean “Friending.” One of the easier ways to get to know someone or get a better sense of who they are is to “friend them” on Facebook. And according to a recent research study that’s not such a bad idea with online dating.
The University of Texas in Austin, a beautiful place in more ways than one, conducted a study in which independent observers used social networking profiles to assess the personalities of roughly 250 men and women. They found facebook profiles accurately reflected the personality traits of the people who posted them. The observers were able to successfully judge the people they were studying for personality topics such as openness and being extroverted.
The difference may come down to the powers friends have over strangers. Both men and women may try to project their perfection and ideal personality traits to strangers in online dating profiles. However, in online communities such as Facebook, their friends will call them on BS if they see it, smell it, or step in it.
So here’s a piece of online dating news you can use. Consider using Facebook to see potential matches and partners as they really are. Doing so might save you both some wasted time, money, and disappointment.
Let’s face it. Friends don’t let friends BS!
Tags: facebook, online dating news, online dating photos, online dating profiles
How to Gain 1 Hour in Online Dating
Nov 7, 2010 Online Dating Tips
In Arizona, we don’t change our clocks. The rest of you have no excuse. What if you could both Spring Forward in Online Dating while you Fall Back in Bed? Well you can. It’s easier than you think. And today is the perfect day to do it.
If you want to get different results in your online dating efforts, try actually doing something different. When you change your clocks twice a year, you create a real feeling of change. So, this presents you with a great opportunity.
Here’s all you do…take the one hour you “gained” overnight, and use it today to gain momentum in your goals for online dating.
Only you know how your personal approach and why you do things the way you do. But if you want to create positive change in your strategies and aren’t sure what to do, here are some ideas for online dating tips:
- Review your online dating profile. Do a spellcheck, look for things you said that feel outdated, add more of yourself into what you show others, be more specific about what you are looking for so that others can get a better look at you as a potential match.
- Take new photos of yourself. You can keep your favorites posted but adding fresh photos is a good idea that helps potential matches get a sense of who the real you they would be meeting.
- Take a chance on someone new. Spend a few minutes looking for new matches or taking a different look at people you’ve been considering establishing communication with but haven’t done so for reasons only you know.
If you want to find the lifelong love, companionship, or just the good times you’re looking for through online dating, don’t fall back on the things you’ve already done that haven’t gotten the results you want. Spring forward, put one hour into making online dating news by promoting yourself. Even if no one else buys in to you romantically right away, you’ll benefit from simply showing love to yourself.
Tags: online dating news, online dating profiles, online dating tips
TV Newsman Turned Blogger offers Free Online Dating Profile Reviews for U.S. Heroes on Veteran’s Day 2010
Nov 5, 2010 NewsRoom
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE: (November 5, 2010)
www.blogonlinedating.com offers online dating news, reviews, interviews, tips, and fun for singles. The new online dating blog is run by an Emmy Award-winning TV journalist and single Daddy, who is a specialist at internet content development through writing and video.
Chandler, AZ, November 5, 2010 – As a Network TV News Producer, Thomas Baldrick has had many dealings with the various branches of the U.S. Armed Forces. He landed the first TV interview with “The Magnificent 7,” after the Iraq POWs were released. He extensively followed the Abu Ghraib prison scandal, and covered numerous other stories involving the U.S. Army, U.S. Navy, U.S. Air Force, and U.S. Marine Corps.
The newsman turned Internet Content Development Specialist will now put to use his creative and writing skills to help single veterans on the upcoming recognition of Veterans Day, November 11, 2010. Through his new online dating blog news site, blogonlinedating.com, Baldrick is offering a free online dating profile review and consultation to the first 10 single past or present members of the U.S. Armed Forces. Those interested need only send an email request to: blogonlinedating@gmail.com.
“In starting my blog, I became aware of the sad fact that certain lowlifes run online dating scams pretending to tie it to the U.S. Military” stated Baldrick. “I decided that for this Veteran’s Day I would do something positive to help the dedicated men and women who bravely serve or have served in our military. Since my online dating blog already offers 10 free tips for creating the perfect online dating profile, I decided to personally consult with 10 single veterans of the U.S. Armed Forces to improve theirs.”
Baldrick says he will not require official confirmation from veterans who request his help through this offer. “And if there are any American singles who would lie about being a veteran on such a sacred day across our nation, then they will be in need of much more help than I can give them through this consultation.”
The online dating industry remains in a rapid rate of growth. Most research shows the industry currently boasts annual revenues of more than $ 4 billion dollars. The latest U.S. Census Bureau figures report there are some 96 million American men and women over 18 years of age who are singles. That equates to some 43% of the entire U.S. population.
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A Virgin Reveals The Starbucks Conspiracy Behind Online Dating
Oct 26, 2010 BOD Bites
I am a virgin. I am a grown man and still a virgin. I admit it. In some ways I wear it like a badge of honor.
I’m not talking about sex. I’m talking about what many people seem to think is more pleasurable than sex:
I have never had a cup of coffee in my life.
My father drank it day and night. My mother drank it too. I didn’t like the smell. And when my father got me once to try coffee ice cream as a kid, I discovered there was in fact something that tasted more like stinky ass than my mother’s alleged meat loaf.
A few years ago I tried to drink an expresso while sitting at gunpoint in a moment of peer pressure with my new friends in Bosnia Herzegovina. I didn’t get beyond a sip of that mud.
Don’t get me wrong. I know Starbucks. I’ve bought and sold their stock successfully. When I was married, I went there every single morning as an act of kindness for my wife because I knew it got her day off to a good start. I also have a friend named Troy who has given me a proprietary look inside the business model of Starbucks since the place is more or less his landlord.
Starbucks is the Real Offline Star of Online Dating
Plenty of Fish is making plenty of profits. Match.com and its sister sites are part of the wealthy IAC Corporate family. And eHarmony has an advertising budget that makes today’s political spending in America seem conservative. They basically have a license to print money from singles. But who has an even sweeter deal?
Starbucks does.
Dinner and a movie are way off the standard online dating menu today. Most men and women doing online dating don’t want to go all out and risk it all on a first encounter with someone new. No one wants to commit to making a day or night of it.
Most sensible women don’t want to meet a stranger at night in the event he is the next psycho or Ted Bundy. Most chivalrous men don’t want to invest the time and expense of a nice dinner in case the woman they’re meeting looks and eats more like the offensive line of the Pittsburgh Steelers than the person she posted in her online dating profile photos.
Starbucks is the meeting place du jour. It is the online dating stick your toe in the water place of choice. If you can go through five online dating profiles without finding a man or woman saying their suggested first meeting spot is a Starbucks, I’ll buy you a Venti Peppermint Mocha and hand deliver it to you anywhere in the free world.
It has got to be a conspiracy. It is the online dating news story of the century that no one in the traditional media is telling. I’ve done countless TV interviews with U.S. Senator Arlen Specter. He was at the heart of the Warren Commission’s investigation into the assassination of President John F. Kennedy. I should talk to him about it. He just got voted out of office.
Starbucks is behind the birth of the whole online dating industry. Starbucks is the master of the movement. Trust me, if you haven’t already had an online dating first meeting at one of their locations, it’s only a matter of time.
By the way, if you’re a virgin like me, the hot Chai Latte is pretty good, but nothing even close to resembling great sex.
Tags: online dating news, online dating profiles, singles, starbucks
Dear Online Dating Diary: Zoosk Thinks I’m Ugly!
Oct 20, 2010 Dating True Stories
Mirror Mirror on the wall. I must be the ugliest of them all. Based on who Zoosk is matching me with, I’m convinced of it. I don’t want to make this kind of online dating news. Say it ain’t so!
While I am not Brad Pitt or Denzel Washington, Tom Brady or Derek Jeter, I don’t think I’m that bad looking. Even if you think I fell out of God’s ugly tree, I didn’t hit every single branch on the way down.
Since I write an online dating blog, I decided to explore the fast-growing online dating site and Facebook app, Zoosk. One of its features for single men and women is called the Zoosk Scientific Match System. It goes by the acronym ZSMS. Sadly, in my personal experience so far, I’m thinking ZSMS stands for:
Zero Science MatchMaking Skills.
Here’s how it works or doesn’t work. Every day I am sent an email informing me I have been matched with another woman. Both of us have been notified and asked to vote on each other’s profile within 24 hours. All responses stay anonymous unless both singles approve. Otherwise, neither person knows about the other person’s response.
There is nothing in my eyes with the Zoosk Scientific Match System that even remotely resembles the law of attraction. Yeah I know, I’m like every other guy trying to upgrade to find a woman who is too good for me. But c’mon, couldn’t the Zoosk computers once in a while match me with someone I’d consider to be sexy or at least attractive?
The reality is most of the women I’ve been matched with by Zoosk are so not my type upon first glance that I’m now fully expecting to hit the decline button. I don’t even need to scroll down to the online dating profiles any more.
It’s been so disappointing I’ve reached the point that I consider it a moral victory if once in a while I happen to weigh less than a woman ZSMS recommends for me.
In the Zoosk forum I can see that ZSMS calculates matches for Zooskers according to their search criteria. It claims that over time, ZSMS will learn more about your preferences and will work to find your best match. Here’s more of how they describle the Zoosk Scientific Match System:
“Think of it as being like DVRs that suggest television shows to you. At first, TV show suggestions are based on very basic criteria along the lines of, “If you like science fiction, you’ll like The X-Files.” As you tell the DVR what shows you do and don’t like, it comes up with better suggestions.
ZSMS is free to all Zooskers, so when you log in, just take a moment to accept or decline the match it suggests. If you decline the match, ZSMS will soon offer you another to choose from. The more you use it, the better your matches will get. If you and your suggested match both click “Accept,” you’ll both be notified and you can take whatever next steps you like.
ZSMS is not yet at the point where it’s using your search settings. For now, it’s selecting profiles based on pretty basic criteria, such as age and proximity…We’re tweaking it regularly, taking member feedback into account. We’re pretty excited about it. Soon, ZSMS will be making some pretty solid matches and bringing people together!”
The Zoosk Scientific Matching System is free to all members. So you have nothing to lose but your time, patience, confidence, hope, and so on. Until now, I’m scoring a big, fat zero with Zoosk.
Tags: online dating blog, online dating news, online dating profiles, zoosk
The Truth about Lying in Online Dating
Oct 18, 2010 Online Dating News
Here’s the truth about online dating…not everyone is honest. And I just don’t get it. I have to say it because if I don’t keep it real in writing this online dating blog, readers won’t return. So far so good.
If your goal is really to find your perfect match then you have to be who you are. You have to think like you really think. You have to feel like you normally feel. You have to act like you usually act.
And you have to look like you currently look, right?
If you lie in your online dating profile about your likes and dislikes, you’re hurting yourself and the person you meet. If you lie to yourself and others using photos from many years, many hairs, or many pounds ago, you’re only going to be discovered when you actually meet any potential match in person. In addition, this practice doesn’t make perfect because it often leads to disappointment and added doubts about what other truths you’re not telling.
It sucks when you meet a woman whose profile says she loves to work out but the butt she hauls on your date is wider than the backside of a race track. And for the ladies, it’s a sad moment when you quickly realize it’s “game over” because the new guy you just met who loved the same football team as you, in reality is so friggin old his favorite players wore leather helmets.
What led me to write about this topic right now was not to unload on my personal experiences. Yeah I have plenty and I’ll get to them. The truth of the matter is I just came across a University of Kansas study that I thought was interesting enough to share with you.
“What people lie about depends on what kind of people they are.”
Those are the words of Jeffrey Hall, a Jayhawk researcher and assistant professor of communication studies. He surveyed more than 5,000 men and women in a national Internet matchmaking service. Hall was trying to determine what kinds of singles are most likely to lie during the online dating process. So, he inquired as to how likely they were to lie about personal issues such as wealth, weight, age, relationship goals, past relationships, and more.
The findings of the study were published in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships. But here are the major online dating news headlines:
Men admitted to lying more overall. Women were most likely to lie about their weight.
Hall found that those who lie on online dating services are people-pleasers who want to present themselves in the most favorable light to get someone to like them He believes the behavior would be the same if these individuals were dating in the traditional manner. Their actions are not necessarily manipulative, Hall said, but rather a more of a reflection on their personal desire to be liked and to fit in.
Whatever the reason behind the baggage and BS, starting a relationship without a foundation of trust is in my opinion a blueprint for a breakup. If you can’t trust in yourself enough to be honest with yourself and just be who you are, you’re probably headed for online dating headaches and heartaches.
Surely, you can do better than that. Surely, you and anyone you meet deserve better than that, too.
Tags: online dating blog, online dating news, online dating profiles, relationships
How Low Do You Go in Online Dating?
Sep 29, 2010 Dating True Stories
If you have more than a few minutes of experience in online dating, you know the above question is a fair one to ask. How low do you go in online dating? How low are you willing to go?
Okay, so maybe I’m a Mickey Mouse television journalist turned online dating blog dude. The photo to the left of Mickey and Goofy doesn’t lie. But really, I’m thinking of the low end of the online dating spectrum a little because of myself, but more because of interviews I’ve done recently with online dating users.
I spoke with a woman tonight who genuinely seemed pleased that so far none of the men she’s met online have turned out to be real psychos. Is that how we judge success in this thing called internet dating? On a brighter note, she is hoping her online dating experience gets much better when she meets the guy she’s been wanting to connect with but hasn’t yet due to their continued scheduling conflicts.
A guy I’ve talked to told me he’s lowered his expectations to the point that now when he meets a woman in person who he’s been communicating with online, if she’s within being 25 pounds heavier than her posted photos he considers that okay. Is that really okay to you?
Another attractive woman I know is dealing with her low expectations by intentionally putting up what is essentially a keep away sign on her online dating profile. She’s taken down her photos and listed her home cities as being in both the northern and southern parts of the United States. Is that a good state to finding one’s perfect match or soul mate?
How low do you go? Hopefully, you don’t go low at all. Singles shouldn’t do the limbo for love. No matter how many frogs you kiss that hop onto your path, hold on tight to your high hopes. Remember, it’s only that one prince or princess you are seeking.
Tags: internet dating, online dating blog, online dating profiles, singles
Entourage meets eTourage in Online Dating
Sep 14, 2010 Dating Websites
Entourage is the popular TV series that has aired on HBO since 2004. If you haven’t seen the creative and entertaining show for yourself, surely you’ve at least heard about it.
The theme for the series Entourage revolves around a young A-List movie star Vincent Chase, and his best buddies from Queens, New York, as they experience the up and down, real and surreal adventures that only Hollywood can actually bring to life. The premise for the show is said to be based on Executive Producer Mark Wahlberg’s real-life journey as an up and coming star and always having his boys around.
ETourage is a new online dating site launched in July 2010 that revolves around setting up group dates. It is making online dating news by going after a niche that targets young people who would rather avoid the trials and tribulations of disappointing one on one meetings and dates.
Stephen Bennett, a single guy in his 20’s from the Washington, DC area simply got so busy in his life with responsibilities from work and school, going to the gym and caring for his dog, that he claims he never had time to meet new people. So, he and partner Benjamin Gottlieb created a business to solve his own problem. “I naturally turn to the Internet to meet new people, but the options available online really aren’t geared toward the younger crowd,” said Bennett.
He points out that 18-29-year olds account for roughly half of the American singles. (You can check out our earlier post to see the results of singles in the latest U.S. Census). However, Bennett believes that young people aren’t using most of the existing online dating websites due to high costs and the LoserVille stigma they carry with them. In addition, most online dating sites promote everlasting love and marriage, but many young people today are really looking first for casual dating or just having a good time.
This online dating system works by creating an online profile, then recruiting your single friends to be in your eTourage. Other users can search the website for girls or guys who catch their interest. If they communicate and connect, they can ask each other out and simultaneously ask the members of their eTourages if they’d like to go on a group date.
To this online dating blog, the eTourage concept certainly sounds like a safer approach for young women. It also seems to have plenty of other advantages such as being more relaxed, feeling less pressure, and simply having fun being with a bunch of your good friends. Who knows? A person could wind up finding the love of life with the selected person or someone else who is one of the friends of another eTourage.
Tags: casual dating, HBO Entourage, online dating blog, online dating news, online dating profiles, singles
With September 11th, Most are from Mars. Victims are from Venus.
Sep 13, 2010 Dating True Stories
I know this is a “different” topic for an online dating blog. And that’s okay.
On September 11th, I stayed true to my goal and my word. I knew I had a hot date with my memories of being in New York. But I tried to get through the day being grateful and focused on where I was in the present.
I cherished the blessing of having custody of my 4-year old son on a not too hot sunny Saturday in Arizona’s Valley of the Sun. It was a formula that brought about many more smiles than tears. And thanks to my trusty digital camera and photogenic little boy, it helped me to create some wonderful new memories.
What I noticed again was that when it comes to the experience of September 11th, most people are from Mars. I’m talking both men and women. I’m also talking about Americans.
The folks from Mars it seems are the ones who remember and talk about 9-11 as though it somehow revolved around them. They speak of it in terms of where they were that day. They remember how they learned about the event. They remember they were watching it on TV. They remember how it altered their routines.
The people who appear to be from Venus are those of who who were directly connected or impacted by the powerful tragedies that took place 9 long and short years ago. We too remember where we were, and what we saw and heard. The difference is we too remember what we felt and still feel. And we remember how others felt and still feel, too.
In Arizona, it’s only natural that most people have a Mars-like experience. They were 2500 miles away from the World Trade Center. (It’s interesting, I originally wrote they “are” 2500 miles away as if those beautiful towers are still here). Anyway, the first tower was hit before six in the morning on Arizona alarm clocks.
But it’s okay to be different. And I spent the day of September 11th, 2010 recognizing it.
We had a scheduled morning play date at a nearby playground for my little boy and one of his best buddies from preschool. My son is caucasian. His friend is Chinese. I am divorced. His friend’s parents are happily married. Some parents at the playground participated in the fun with their children. Others paid more attention to their smart phones, seemingly hoping their kids didn’t get hurt too badly or run off with a stranger.
Of the hundred plus people there, two of us wore something that let others know we remembered. And that’s okay.
After the playground, my son and I then went shopping for a present for a new friend of mine. It created a whole new experience of differences. The guy we were shopping for is a real nice guy. I like him. He’s funny as hell and kind as heaven. He happens to have September 11th as a birthday. He happens to enjoy making jewelry. He also happens to be gay. We couldn’t be more different as men.
So, upon the wonderful recommendation of our mutual friend Karen, I carried my little boy into Michael’s, the arts and crafts store near our home in Chandler, Arizona. A female employee could tell right away I was lost and clueless. She led me to the beads section and was initially eager to help. But with question she asked about who I was shopping for, I actually noticed her step back physically and pull back emotionally. It was written all over her face. I couldn’t help but assume she was assuming I was gay and was shopping for my new “friend.” Now that was different.
We took our presents to the birthday party at a place in Phoenix that lets people create their own painted plates and pottery. Everyone in the place was so serious about what they were doing. Again, I couldn’t have been more different.
My son was like me. He soon was pulling me out the door because he wanted to go outside and play. We went to an awesome open area in the outdoor mall that has fountains coming up through the floor for kids to get wet. All of the other parents sat far away enough at tables to avoid getting wet. I was the one who wound up getting soaked from head to toe, including the discomfort of wet socks and sneakers. Again, I couldn’t have felt more different.
The day ended by helping a woman revamp her online dating profile for eHarmony. I took some photos of her and uploaded them. I also proofed what she had written and gave her some advice from a man’s perspective.
Needless to say, even more so than shopping for jewelry making supplies, this experience of seeing how women and men approach online dating was the crown jewel of recognizing differences on my September 11th. And that’s okay.
Tags: online dating blog, online dating profiles, september 11th
Sign of the Times: Will Work for Love & Sex
Aug 22, 2010 Dating True Stories
Online dating didn’t need any help from government. The degree of difficulty was already high. We’re in a multi-tasking world of texting while driving, and checking emails while checking out online dating profiles.
(Photo from billionswithzeroknowledge.org)
The men or women you open your heart to in efforts to connect can coldly dump you in an instant. You can be deleted while they’re sitting at a red light or checking out at the supermarket.
It’s A-B-C ya later. It’s “Bam you’re gone” by Blackberry. It’s “No I don’t think so” by iPhone.
Getting the attention of someone online to get an “at bat” to date them can often require a professional public relations effort. You’ve got to create the fantasy result. But real life isn’t always real pretty, especially in 2010.
When two people meet through online dating, they’re part actors and detectives, therapists and risk management analysts. They’re scoping each other out looking to see and hear if the real person resembles the online person they posted in words and photos. They’re looking to learn about who and where this other person is emotionally, mentally, spiritually, ethically, legally, and financially. They’re investigating to find out if there’s a possible match, and discovering the diamonds and dirt each person would be bringing into a relationship.
It creates a scenario that’s like where the Help Wanted section meets the Personal Ads…or where Dr. Ruth meets Judge Judy.
Many men and women today find their lives looking and sounding like the lyrics of a country music song. They lost their job their lost their wife or girlfriend, husband or boyfriend. So, they’ve courageously put themselves out there on the markets again, looking for work and looking for love – simultaneously. Having a partner to help you through tough times sure could make the struggling days and lonely nights a bit easier to manage.
So what’s a person to do, hold a sign at the traffic light near the local mall that reads, “Will Work for Sex and Love”?
Nah. While me thinks that might be a fairly effective strategy (since all you need is one), prostitution and panhandling are illegal in most places across the U.S. Besides, neither one is socially acceptable or the foundation for a lasting relationship. And anyway, where I live in Arizona, it’s 110 degrees every day standing on the street corners.
So, whether they realize it or not, many men and women doing online dating today are basically carrying signs and/or issues based on their emotions of trying to survive a struggling economy. These real world matters can affect one’s sense of self-worth, confidence, and approach to dating and relationships. They also affect how a potential partner may judge you.
Sadly, I’ve seen a few relationships crash and burn recently. They starred a man and a woman who shared magic between them. They were great individuals who came together to form an even greater couple. You couldn’t help but feel happy for them. But the economy was taking its toll on one of them, which quickly took its toll on both of them. The other person got scared. And the magic disappeared faster than you could say foreclosure or unemployment.
Today, the romantic stimulus can get kissed goodbye from a lack of economic stimulus.
People with a good work ethic don’t usually get lazy overnight. Situations change. Luck changes. Economies fluctuate. So, do housing prices. Even many of the mightiest and most successful men and women have had to eat huge servings of humble pie lately.
Whether you are doing online dating in Paradise Valley, Arizona, or Intercourse, Pennsylania, Christmas, Florida or Fort Bliss, Texas, there are plenty of good fish worth catching. Just because they may be down temporarily, doesn’t mean you abruptly count them out. Keep in mind, many relationships were either started in or survived the Great Depression. Ultimately, it’s what a person has in their heart, whether their personality, beliefs, likes and dislikes, dreams and feelings are compatible with yours.
As far as subjects of online dating today are graded, chemistry should count for more than accounting.
Who knows? You seeing enough of the goodness in a struggling man or woman to start a personal relationship with them could be all they need to rise up professionally and be better than ever. It’s also possible this person will truly appreciate you and work hard for your love.
Who knows? In this economy, you might be able to find the priceless love of your life at one temporarily low, low price. And nobody ever wants to pass up a great bargain.
Tags: internet dating, online dating, online dating profiles, sign of the times, struggling economy
How About Dating with How About We?
Aug 17, 2010 Dating Websites
Co-Founders of How About We
Online dating is as competitive for the businesses as it is for the people looking for love. It either takes a whole lot of money or something really interesting to make noise in the crowded competition for matchmaking and online dating services.
So, how about the buzz that startup dating service, How About We has generated? The new company based in New York City was even featured in the New York Times. Kudos to Co-Founders, Aaron Schildkrout and Brian Schechter.
How About We is an online dating service with a business model built on income from subscribers. The central concept features people proposing and accepting specific ideas for going on a date. It boasts of putting the date back in dating.
- Subscribers invent fun dates (romantic, creative, wild, unique)
- Interested subscribers fill in the details and dots
- Subscribers ask each other out on dates
How About We distributes the dates you create to other members. And each day, you’ll also receive other people’s date ideas that attempt to match your interests. You can check each other out, message, and go out on the dates you want. When two people go on the date they want, that’s where the magic can happen.
What is different about it is that it’s not driven by computer algorithms trying to match people through online profiles. How About We is all about live activities that can possibly connect people in the real world. Users pay to subscribe to the service.
Local businesses get involved. For example, one proposed date might take place at a featured restaurant which offers a discount coupon. Now How About We has also added some interesting social media applications. For example, a new matchmaker feature which gives subscribers the opportunity to share their proposed date ideas with their followers on Twitter, as well as their friends or fans on Facebook.
How about that? How About We is a business having great success going forward by going back to basics. A dating service actually based on dating. What an innovative 21st Century approach.
Tags: dating, How About We, New York City, online dating profiles, online dating service