Online Dating and BBWs: Blimps aren’t for Wimps
Nov 24, 2010 Online Dating News
Today, thin is still wins. Being thin is still in. While more and more people seem to be carrying around extra pounds, those who don’t carry the advantage in online dating and in life.
Proof of the thin advantage is everywhere. For women, the supermodels with airbrushed photos, perfect makeup, sexy wardrobe and beautiful hair are still the ones who are worshipped in the media, in the minds of most men, and in the mirrors of many women. The deliver messages that being thin is who, what, and how a woman needs to be to succeed. And also those who don’t conform to these beauty basics are basically unattractive, unworthy, and unwanted.
At one point or another, all (BBWs) big, beautiful women as they call themselves have either wanted or felt the need to fit into the thin crowd. They are pressured internally and externally by advertising, the diet and fitness industries, squeezing into things like clothes and airline seats, and dealing with how others view them and how BBWs view themselves.
We all see these images every day. They don’t just affect BBWs. They impact all of us, from preschool girls to professional men. Yes, these images greatly impact men.
If you think about it, it takes a big man to be in love or an online dating relationship with a BBW. This doesn’t mean a large or physically strong man to handle her size. It means it takes a man who is bigger, stronger, and more confident than all of the pressure and negativity that surely comes his way by being romantically involved with a BBW.
A man who is attracted to a BBW or in a sexual relationship with one will usually face both verbal and non-verbal criticism from his friends, family members, neighbors, co-workers and clients, even strangers. They will wonder what is wrong with him, why he is settling for someone clearly unacceptable, what is he thinking being seen with someone like that. He and she will be totally and harshly judged by appearance alone. They constantly face rejection. It is destination: disapproval.
BBWs and their partners have this difficult and courageous choice to carry in a relationship. And the wounds of rejection run even deeper. Many BBWs have experienced being targeted by men who view them as easy marks or receptacles for casual sex encounters. Therefore, they are often flat out suspicious of a genuine man who likes, loves, or is attracted to them for who they are as a whole – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In one of the ultimate ironies, the man who wants to be in a dating relationship or marriage with a BBW more than likely has to fight really hard to be the women that many in our society today want little to do with.
Tags: BBW, casual dating, online dating, online dating news, relationships
Online Dating: Getting What You Want Starts With You
Nov 16, 2010 Online Dating News
You heard it as a kid. In fact, you probably heard it many times. Whether you are a male or female it makes no difference. Your parents, teachers, friends and enemies told you about it. And if that’s not enough, the Rolling Stones even sang it to you, “You Can’t Always Get What You Want.”
This just in to the Online Dating News Room…
It’s true. You may not always get what you want. But focusing on getting what you want is always a great starting point for your personal search.
How do you begin? Start by taking some time to be sure you actually know what it is that you do want. This will also help you to know what it is that you don’t want!
Spend some quiet time thinking and reflecting. Look back on your life/ Look at where you are now. And look ahead at where you want to be. Laser focus if you can. Ask yourself the easy and tough questions and answer them as best you can. Here are a few to consider for your own online dating self quiz:
What changes do you want to make or are open to making?
Are you in the market for marriage?
What are your feelings about sex?
Are you ready for a long-term relationship?
Are you open to a long distance relationship?
Are you satisfied with simply finding friends and others to spend some time?
Are you positioning yourself to be a player?
Do you want someone like your last significant other, or someone totally different?
Only you know the most important and relevant questions to ask yourself. And only you know the true, correct answers. Cheating on this kind of test is only cheating yourself, right?
Once you do know the answers to who, what, where, when, and why as they pertain to you, then you have prepared yourself for online dating success. Now you will be able to see and tell the difference between your stuff and someone else’s stuff. You will be able to know if what is important to them is important to you. You will be able to see if they match or if they don’t. Your self-awareness not only helps you, but can help every person you meet through online dating.
You should always think of yourself first in online dating. Follow your hopes and dreams. It’s okay to be led by the likes, looks, and laughs you want in a relationship partner. If you don’t get your needs met from the start, when are you going to do so? This matters in any relationship from casual dating to life long soulmates. You never drive far on an empty tank of gas, do you? And no matter how long the journey lasts, it’s always best when you enjoy the ride!
So, not that it’s really online dating news, here are some words to remember from the immortal Mick Jagger, “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need.”
Tags: casual dating, Mick Jagger, online dating news, online dating quiz
4 Singles Hope to Hit Home Run in Online Dating
Nov 15, 2010 Dating Websites
Minnesota’s Twin Cities is a fun place with lots of great people. I know this because my friend Mike Veeck is one of the owners of the St. Paul Saints, perhaps the most fun team in all of professional baseball. But now as another cold, winter season replaces baseball, 4 Twin Cities singles are trying to hit a home run. Only their chosen field is online dating.
Plume Blue is claimed to be the love child of four young singles who say they have been through the gamut of online dating. Because their collective dating experiences lacked the joy, grace, humor and excitement they believed should be a part of dating, they created their own online dating site and service called Plume Blue.
This one is similar to How About We, the successful event based dating service in New York City we told you about recently here at BlogOnlineDating. How About We has raised a bundle in private investor money.
Meanwhile, with Plume Blue, a young woman named Stacy Becker is the founder and funder. She brings along three friends in key roles. A female as web designer, and a pair of young males as public relations person and web coding guru.
Plume Blue warns that some of its features may seem strange at first to experienced online daters in the Twin Cities area. Here’s why. Plume Blue members don’t get black and blue making their way through algorithm generated online dating profiles and recommended matches.
Instead, members can meet each other through posting and browsing activity based dates such as shows, classes, and sports and entertainment events at local venues. There isn’t the pressure of matching people in lifelong relationships. This is just about helping singles to find fun dates.
Privacy and communication have been protected and limited. Plume Blue members have total control over their profile and their communication.
Singles are even encouraged to enjoy double, triple, and even group dates.
Hoping to make online dating news, Plume Blue offers a two month introductory rate for only $12. After that, being a member will cost only $7 a month.
Tags: casual dating, online dating service, plume blue, singles
Entourage meets eTourage in Online Dating
Sep 14, 2010 Dating Websites
Entourage is the popular TV series that has aired on HBO since 2004. If you haven’t seen the creative and entertaining show for yourself, surely you’ve at least heard about it.
The theme for the series Entourage revolves around a young A-List movie star Vincent Chase, and his best buddies from Queens, New York, as they experience the up and down, real and surreal adventures that only Hollywood can actually bring to life. The premise for the show is said to be based on Executive Producer Mark Wahlberg’s real-life journey as an up and coming star and always having his boys around.
ETourage is a new online dating site launched in July 2010 that revolves around setting up group dates. It is making online dating news by going after a niche that targets young people who would rather avoid the trials and tribulations of disappointing one on one meetings and dates.
Stephen Bennett, a single guy in his 20’s from the Washington, DC area simply got so busy in his life with responsibilities from work and school, going to the gym and caring for his dog, that he claims he never had time to meet new people. So, he and partner Benjamin Gottlieb created a business to solve his own problem. “I naturally turn to the Internet to meet new people, but the options available online really aren’t geared toward the younger crowd,” said Bennett.
He points out that 18-29-year olds account for roughly half of the American singles. (You can check out our earlier post to see the results of singles in the latest U.S. Census). However, Bennett believes that young people aren’t using most of the existing online dating websites due to high costs and the LoserVille stigma they carry with them. In addition, most online dating sites promote everlasting love and marriage, but many young people today are really looking first for casual dating or just having a good time.
This online dating system works by creating an online profile, then recruiting your single friends to be in your eTourage. Other users can search the website for girls or guys who catch their interest. If they communicate and connect, they can ask each other out and simultaneously ask the members of their eTourages if they’d like to go on a group date.
To this online dating blog, the eTourage concept certainly sounds like a safer approach for young women. It also seems to have plenty of other advantages such as being more relaxed, feeling less pressure, and simply having fun being with a bunch of your good friends. Who knows? A person could wind up finding the love of life with the selected person or someone else who is one of the friends of another eTourage.
Tags: casual dating, HBO Entourage, online dating blog, online dating news, online dating profiles, singles
Come Labor Day – Get to Work on Dating!
Sep 6, 2010 Online Dating Tips
While the official calendar says differently, Labor Day marks the end of summer in the minds of most of us. An online dating blog should look at this.
While the fall weather usually brings relief and a pleasant change outside, inside the minds of many men and women who are singles, Labor Day also means a shift in our thinking as we search for casual dating partners, sexual partners, or serious relationship partners. You can become more interested in finding a partner knowing what is ahead on the calendar.
Traditionally, if you hit this time of year, some of us might be looking for a special someone with whom to watch football games and create your own more exciting halftime show. For those of us who are unable to forget September 11th, that is certainly a day of reflection about where your life has gone, where it is at the moment, and where you want it to go.
But really, the next major milestone on the single’s calendar might be Halloween. That can be a really fun social event with a significant other. Next comes Thanksgiving. While turkey and all the fixings are often shared with family, having a person you’re dating can make everything taste better.
And then of course there is Hanukkah for some, and Christmas for the rest of us. All the wrapped presents in the world can’t replace the feeling of being wrapped in the arms of someone you love on Chrismas Eve or Christmas morning. So you can wait and ask Santa again for your perfect match. You can try to convince him you’ve been a good girl or boy. Needless to say, having someone to kiss at midnight on New Year’s Eve is really the only fireworks singles care about at all.
Or you can take a chance and put yourself out there in the world of online dating.
The internet is such an amazing tool. You use to search for things you want to find, things you want to buy, and things you want to learn about. So why not use online dating to find men or women to date, or find the perfect match of your dreams? You can’t use the internet to buy a person legally, but you can use it to buy an online dating service. And you can certainly jump into this process to learn more about yourself and other people.
So, if you don’t have an online dating profile, why not create one? If you already have a profile, why not give it a fresh look? AND SIGN UP FOR OUR 10 FREE TIPS TO CREATE YOUR PERFECT ONLINE DATING PROFILE!
Hopefully, either of these actions will lead you to the goals you have and the happiness you want in sharing all that life has to offer with a relationship partner. So, now that Labor Day has come, why not get to work on dating? Improve your social life before the long, lonely days and nights with Old Man Winter!
Tags: casual dating, dating, online dating, online dating blog, relationships, sexual partners, singles
How do You Make Your Booty Calls?
Aug 18, 2010 Dating Websites
Well, if you’re like 5 million other people, you do it as a registered member of OnlineBootyCall.com (OBC). The casual dating website is now celebrating and proudly announcing it has reached the major milestone of 5 million active members.
Since the launch of the online dating site back in 2003, Online Booty Call has given interested male and female singles the opportunity to make connections with others who are also looking for a relaxing “friendship with benefits.” It’s not designed for shopping for a “one night stand.” Nor is it designed for those men and women seeking a long-term relationship. Online Booty Call caters to people who are in the market for the casual dating area somewhere in between.
The website was recently revamped to make room for a feature called the “Booty Call Commandments” which says it gives members a better chance of finding the perfect booty call for their specific wants and needs. (No word if those commandments were also handed down through a burning bush or not).
“Booty Call” Trademark
OBC has also officially trademarked perhaps the most popular term or phrase in the world of modern online dating: booty call. It all began with the popular movie starring Jamie Foxx, Tommy Davidson, and Vivica A. Fox. Eventually, it led to another popular term, “Friends with Benefits.” Today, the company claims that the phrase “booty call” has taken on a life of its own. It no longer describes a casual sex encounter but rather a casual relationship.
No matter what you call it, the statistics show that millions of men and women are going online to make their own unique version of a “booty call.”
So how do you make yours?
Tags: casual dating, friends with benefits, Jamie Foxx, online booty call, online dating, relationships