Online Dating: Getting What You Want Starts With You
Nov 16, 2010 Online Dating News
You heard it as a kid. In fact, you probably heard it many times. Whether you are a male or female it makes no difference. Your parents, teachers, friends and enemies told you about it. And if that’s not enough, the Rolling Stones even sang it to you, “You Can’t Always Get What You Want.”
This just in to the Online Dating News Room…
It’s true. You may not always get what you want. But focusing on getting what you want is always a great starting point for your personal search.
How do you begin? Start by taking some time to be sure you actually know what it is that you do want. This will also help you to know what it is that you don’t want!
Spend some quiet time thinking and reflecting. Look back on your life/ Look at where you are now. And look ahead at where you want to be. Laser focus if you can. Ask yourself the easy and tough questions and answer them as best you can. Here are a few to consider for your own online dating self quiz:
What changes do you want to make or are open to making?
Are you in the market for marriage?
What are your feelings about sex?
Are you ready for a long-term relationship?
Are you open to a long distance relationship?
Are you satisfied with simply finding friends and others to spend some time?
Are you positioning yourself to be a player?
Do you want someone like your last significant other, or someone totally different?
Only you know the most important and relevant questions to ask yourself. And only you know the true, correct answers. Cheating on this kind of test is only cheating yourself, right?
Once you do know the answers to who, what, where, when, and why as they pertain to you, then you have prepared yourself for online dating success. Now you will be able to see and tell the difference between your stuff and someone else’s stuff. You will be able to know if what is important to them is important to you. You will be able to see if they match or if they don’t. Your self-awareness not only helps you, but can help every person you meet through online dating.
You should always think of yourself first in online dating. Follow your hopes and dreams. It’s okay to be led by the likes, looks, and laughs you want in a relationship partner. If you don’t get your needs met from the start, when are you going to do so? This matters in any relationship from casual dating to life long soulmates. You never drive far on an empty tank of gas, do you? And no matter how long the journey lasts, it’s always best when you enjoy the ride!
So, not that it’s really online dating news, here are some words to remember from the immortal Mick Jagger, “You can’t always get what you want. But if you try sometimes, you might find, you get what you need.”
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