Online Dating and BBWs: Blimps aren’t for Wimps
Nov 24, 2010 Online Dating News
Today, thin is still wins. Being thin is still in. While more and more people seem to be carrying around extra pounds, those who don’t carry the advantage in online dating and in life.
Proof of the thin advantage is everywhere. For women, the supermodels with airbrushed photos, perfect makeup, sexy wardrobe and beautiful hair are still the ones who are worshipped in the media, in the minds of most men, and in the mirrors of many women. The deliver messages that being thin is who, what, and how a woman needs to be to succeed. And also those who don’t conform to these beauty basics are basically unattractive, unworthy, and unwanted.
At one point or another, all (BBWs) big, beautiful women as they call themselves have either wanted or felt the need to fit into the thin crowd. They are pressured internally and externally by advertising, the diet and fitness industries, squeezing into things like clothes and airline seats, and dealing with how others view them and how BBWs view themselves.
We all see these images every day. They don’t just affect BBWs. They impact all of us, from preschool girls to professional men. Yes, these images greatly impact men.
If you think about it, it takes a big man to be in love or an online dating relationship with a BBW. This doesn’t mean a large or physically strong man to handle her size. It means it takes a man who is bigger, stronger, and more confident than all of the pressure and negativity that surely comes his way by being romantically involved with a BBW.
A man who is attracted to a BBW or in a sexual relationship with one will usually face both verbal and non-verbal criticism from his friends, family members, neighbors, co-workers and clients, even strangers. They will wonder what is wrong with him, why he is settling for someone clearly unacceptable, what is he thinking being seen with someone like that. He and she will be totally and harshly judged by appearance alone. They constantly face rejection. It is destination: disapproval.
BBWs and their partners have this difficult and courageous choice to carry in a relationship. And the wounds of rejection run even deeper. Many BBWs have experienced being targeted by men who view them as easy marks or receptacles for casual sex encounters. Therefore, they are often flat out suspicious of a genuine man who likes, loves, or is attracted to them for who they are as a whole – physically, emotionally, and spiritually. In one of the ultimate ironies, the man who wants to be in a dating relationship or marriage with a BBW more than likely has to fight really hard to be the women that many in our society today want little to do with.
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