Create iHarmony before Joining an Online Dating Service
Aug 29, 2010 BOD Recommends
Life is magical. But it isn’t a magic show. Though sometimes we’d all like to do a disappearing act from our stuff, right?
Though I’ve had my heart broken more than once as I’m sure you have, no one performed a magic trick and sawed me in half one day. They didn’t do it to you either. I am a whole person. So are you. And so is every other woman or man you hope to date, have a sexual relationship with, or spend the rest of your life with as a partner or spouse.
So why then do so many people keep stumbling through life using the love label, “She or he is my other half.”
While it may sound romantic, and is probably listed on page 1 of the Book of Love, I just don’t get it. Think about it. No one person can really make any other person complete. Isn’t a great relationship when two people come together just as they are? They see each other, hear each other, know each other, respect, like and love each other, and accept as well as allow each other to be who they really are. That’s a complete relationship isn’t it? But it’s still two whole people, not two halves.
Relationships are about give and take, and being able to give and receive. You’re not always going to agree on everything or to see things in life the same way. But unless you want to play the losing blame game and fight like I see happen to so many couples who used to act like they were in love, you’d better be two whole and complete individuals.
A relationship is best prepared for the life long haul when you take one good, happy, and complete man or woman, and he or she joins with another good, happy, and complete man or woman…by choice.
So consider this, before you join an online dating website…
Try creating iHarmony within yourself or make sure you already have it. By iHarmony I mean internal harmony and inner happiness. Be okay with who you are when you look in the mirror or when you look inside your heart, mind, body, and soul. If you aren’t, then create the changes you need to feel better and more attractive to yourself and your soulmate.
But know who you are. Know what your stuff, your baggage, your issues are. We all have them. Some people can fit theirs into the overhead compartment, others must check theirs in at the gate, and still others have so much baggage it has to travel cargo. Regardless of how much you have, if you don’t know it and own it, you won’t be able to tell it apart from your partner’s stuff, baggage, and issues.
Be who you are. Hold on tight to your dreams, the people, things, and places you enjoy. Someone who allows you to keep them and wants to share in the joy of them with, as well as share all of themselves with you, is really the definition of the perfect partner.
Creating iHarmony will give you the added benefit you need to be more selective about finding your perfect partner should you choose to join Perfect Match or another online dating website. (Perfect Match is a proven outstanding dating program. It simply doesn’t spend as much on advertising as eHarmony). Click on the banner on the right of our home page.
It isn’t necessarily true that two halves make a whole in a loving relationship. They don’t. In fact, they usually leave a hole that grows bigger and deeper over time. Feel whole all by yourself. Then make room for a partner who feels the same way.
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